This series of four workshops can be presented as a two-day seminar. This seminar was recently offered in the UK.
Workshop #1: Looking the Dragon in the Eye
“Early mapmakers didn’t know what lay beyond chartered territory, so they warned of dragons. In my first weeks and months (and I wonder if it will be years) of retirement I have certainly had to look more than one dragon in
the eye.” Erikson wrote about 8 stages in life, Shakespeare wrote about 7, Hinduism and Buddhism speak about 4. Today, a woman who is age 55 has a life expectancy of an additional 29.5 years. This is life’s “third phase” I think. We were children/youth, we had our career/family raising years, and we’re not yet ready for “old age. In this first workshop together we will begin to explore some of our personal “dragons”, including: finance, logistics, time management, relationships, expectations, identity, aging & health, and all kinds of growth. Becoming aware of our concerns about what comes after a full-time career helps us to plan a way to navigate through the unknown journey we’re entering.
Workshop #2: Identifying Priorites and Passions
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” (Lao Tzu)<.p>
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakens.” (Carl Jung)
Some people think that the challenge of “retirement” is keeping busy. Keeping busy is not enough. This workshop will help you to clarify your own priorities and passions; the very things that this Third Stage offers us as a gift. How will you
choose what to do with your time that will be personally meaningful and fulfilling? Do you really want to be doing more of the same – but less of it? This is our time to live our dreams … if we can just figure out what they are.
Workshop #3: Thinking About the Time of Our Life
“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” (Harvey MacKay)
It’s time now to think about time, both human “doing” time and human “being” time. We’re going to explore this in two ways. First we’re going to look at how you’re spending your time right now and how you might want to spend it differently (building on what we’ve identified in the first two sessions). Then we’re going to look at your expectations – and the expectations of those around you – and do a little reality checking to illuminate some of the hurdles you might have to manage.
Workshop #4: Living a New Life in Colour
“For all that we might be, if only we’d let ourselves.” Elizabeth Berg.
“I constantly try to reinvent my sensibilities and my ideas. I enjoy some of the satisfaction that I get when I feel good about what I’ve done. But the process is quite lonely and quite painful.” Vincent Gallo.
In this final session we’ll build on what we’ve learned in the previous sessions – and in our own life experiences – together. So many of us find ourselves at loose ends, not sure who we are any more and not sure where we want to be
headed. This session will be a time for thinking about transition and the blues that might just come along with such a massive change in our lives. How do you deal with being so far “out of the loop” that you don’t even know what the loop
is anymore? How do you fend off feeing disconnected and lonely? How will you fill your spirit? You’ll have an opportunity to lay the foundations for a new community that will sustain you and make Phase 3 the best time of your life.